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Titty Milk Talk with Lala

by Lala Daly | 8 months ago

Every morning my loud but tiny human alarm clock wakes me up with fake cries of neediness, scrambling around the bed with her eyes closed and her mouth wide open until she latches on to anything she can find, usually my left boob (Favourtism).  Everyday my mind tells me to let go and embrace the moments, what’s 2/3 years of sacrificing, what used to be perky boobs anyway?

Immediately after birth, Snoh latched on like a pro, no issues. Chugging milk whenever her head was close to my new milk jugs. I was advised by many to feed her on demand for the first couple of weeks, somewhat how you’d imagine the life a dairy cow. Then slowly ease her into a feed schedule. Feed schedule?

My new thought on that advise.

Rule1: Do not, I repeat do not feed these little milk suckers on demand!

Rule2: Get that baby on a schedule ASAP!

Rule3: Bottle feed them before bed (of breastmilk of course) so they don’t have high expectations of sleeping with you.

I say this because of course I epically failed on sleep training/milk scheduling. I still technically feed Snoh on demand, although naturally she created her own schedule. “IF” we are at home, she’ll nap 1230pm and again 5pm. Feeding before a.k.a using her mama as a human pacifier, to my brits a dummy. I then spend the next 15 minutes trying to escape from underneath her like a magical illusionist, then sneaking out the room attempting not to fall, trip or slip on any toys or random dangerous baby objects that could trap me into getting back into bed and yes we co-sleep, there were three in the bed and the little one said… roll over! Which is usually me rolling on to the edge of the bed for yet another night.

 

Let’s take it back to Day 3. My milk came in full force!  I would feed Snoh on one side and still have to pump that side after as it was still insanely full while trying to catch the leakage happening on the other side that Snoh, completely refused to drink. If I wasn’t feeding Snoh in my first 2 weeks I was attached to a breast pump, whilst stuffing my face on protein bars and snacks. I imagined my self-looking like the women from that scene in Mad Max: Fury Road. I filled up 50 bags of 3-6 oz in those 2 short weeks. During these 2 weeks, Snoh was projectile vomiting everywhere well, mainly over me!

I want to explain to my fellow American readers, in England you are assigned a midwife (FOR FREE) when you’re expecting. Your midwife takes care of you throughout all your pregnancy and prenatal care, she delivers your baby and completes your aftercare, including your first few visits being at home (STILL FOR FREE). You are only assigned a doctor if your pregnancy is high risk and good luck trying to get a planned c-section for the fun of it LOL.

You and your midwife become two peas in a pod, she’s your babe and won’t let anything go Pete Tong! She teaches you how to nurse your baby, checks the overall health of mama and baby, for weeks after you’ve left the hospital., If you have any questions or concerns she’s your lady!  Over here in the states from my experience, as I can’t speak on a hospital experience,  I had a home birth with a midwife (NOT FREE). However, I’m pretty sure most babies are delivered by doctors, after delivery a lactation consultant is advised to teach the mother her nursing skills, which is usually covered by their insurance. For my brits, yep you have to pay monthly for health insurance and yes they still take medical taxes and no I can not tell you where they go!

If you’re a little chicken jalfrezi crazy like myself and opt to convince yourself a drug free home birth is the best way, then after you fork out $6000-$8000 for the prenatal care and labour (generally not insurance covered of course) you then are required to seek a lactation consultant independently and no your midwife ain’t there at first beckoning call of help.

Being the stubborn Aquarius I am, I didn’t seek help from any lactation specialist or attend any nursing classes. I am a woman, what else could one possibly need? In my head the baby latches, the milk flows, 1 + 1 = 2.

WAS I WRONG! I could not have been any more naive going into this new journey.

I don’t think anyone can prepare you for the hormonal rollercoaster you will endure after having a baby, I remember having guests over and Snoh projectile vomited 4 times in a row all over one guest, the guest told me she’s okay. Okay, I thought to myself, she just threw up more than her body weight. I burst into tears, out of fear thinking she was worryingly sick or having a terrible reaction to my precious liquid gold (Hormones taking over). I took her to the doctor for a second opinion, I laugh at myself for even bothering. My doctor couldn’t tell me a single thing, had no idea what was causing this and told me to take my newborn for an MRI scan. ABSOLUTELY NOT!

Being a 90’s born baby, I can safely put my trust into my other doctor aka Google. Thanks to the geniuses who invented Google, I sat online for hours reading forums and blogs on newborns feeding habits, because let’s be honest what else was I doing with my non-wireless breast pump.

Finally, I come to an answer, OVERSUPPLYING. Durgh Lala! Why didn’t I think of that! It’s really common in the younger age range of mothers but can happen to anyone of us. It’s important to know how to deal with it, at first it’s overwhelming as your boobs are ginormous, engorged with pain and you’re constantly massaging out milk ducts. Snoh was throwing up due to only receiving one part of the milk at a time and being overfed. I now know its important for babies to receive the foremilk and the hindmilk. After reading many stories, there were simple solutions that would make life more comfortable, pumping a minute or 2 before feeds, alternating feed sides or pumping and feeding at the same time.

Over the period of 2 months Snoh gained an ounce a day but stopped throwing up, my nerves calmed down and we got this breastfeeding thing under control.

Breastfeeding is a challenge and a constant battle, we all go through our own personal struggles with it, never be embarrassed to ask for help or advise. If I could go back I’d prepare my self a little better and take those damn classes.

July 2018 and I’m almost 17 months into breastfeeding and have no exact plan when to stop.

Did you or are you breastfeeding, How long for and what advice would you give a first time expecting mama on breastfeeding?

Love

Your Fav Brit Lala.